A few days ago, I was asked by an international student a simple
question, but it took some time to think about it. She asked “How can I make
American friends?” It was a simple question, but I had to think about my
experience of how I made friends in college. I met those that when I approach
them, they kindly talked to me and we were friends that quickly. Then I met
those who I would wave my hand saying hello and going to talk to them, they
look at me like I am some odd stranger and those rejections hurt. After much
thinking, I’ve concluded that making friend is a process. First, I must start
with priming and that means I need a good starter. The best one is a smile. I
smile at them and watch for a smile back. If so, I proceed, with a “Hello, how
are you?” conversation and watch for a response. Then, I want to do what I call
scanning/ researching. In this phase, I would ask those questions about their
classes or perhaps something that I know would be of interest to them and I
would make a friend from there.
-Priscilla Her
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